It Comes in Waves
Years after her cousin was killed, Lilly Dancyger is haunted by images of murdered women in the news.
"A rich, nuanced exploration of women’s anger from a diverse group of writers," available now from Seal Press.
Lilly Dancyger is a contributing editor and columnist at Catapult, and assistant editor at Barrelhouse Books. She's the editor of Burn it Down, a critically acclaimed anthology of essays on women's anger from Seal Press, named one of the "most recommended books of the season" by Literary Hub; and the author of Negative Space, a reported and illustrated memoir selected by Carmen Maria Machado as a winner of the 2019 Santa Fe Writers Project Literary Awards, forthcoming in 2021.
Lilly is the founder and host of of Memoir Monday, a weekly newsletter and monthly reading series co-curated by Narratively, The Rumpus, Tin House, Guernica, Granta, Longreads, and Catapult, featuring the best memoir writers of today. Lilly's writing has been published by Longreads, The Washington Post, Glamour, Playboy, Rolling Stone, and more. She lives in New York City, and she spends way too much time on twitter (where you can find her at @lillydancyger).
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Get in touch at lillydancyger at gmail dot com for inquiries about Burn It Down or Negative Space, editorial services, or speaking invitations. Do not send PR emails to this address (or at all).
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